You Can’t Make Everyone Happy – And You Shouldn’t
It’s sad, but our daily actions are often motivated by obtaining the approval of others. There’s an obsession with making sure we don’t disappoint those around us, and this is most usually in exchange for our own happiness. Think about all that you do for everyone else, and then think about what you do for yourself. How much time do you spend caring about other people’s needs before you pay mind to your own?
The Dalai Lama had this to say about taking care of your own needs, which he calls being wise selfish:
Being wise selfish means taking a broader view and recognizing that our own long-term individual interest lies in the welfare of everyone. Being wise selfish means being compassionate.
There will come a point in your life (and hopefully, that point is right now) when it’s imperative that you learn how to stick up for yourself and learn that to be selfish for the well-being of the self is, in fact, acceptable. As you become more of an adult with more to lose and less time to spend on this Earth, you must become stronger and more confident in expressing how you feel.
You must learn to stick up for yourself to make sure that you are not being taken advantage of. However, I know as well as anyone that it’s difficult to dictate to others on matters they don’t wish to hear. The pain of letting someone down, disappointing them, just doesn’t seem worth the freedom that comes with saying, “No.”
The only person you need to make happy is YOU. It’s simplistic, and you need to recognize there are causes & effects to disregarding other people, but those are unavoidable.
Instead of trying to make others happy, make yourself happy & share that happiness with others